I am very stressed. After 7 years of studying psychology, working as a therapist, and now being a life coach, I am experiencing all of this stress. I have a plethora of tools in my toolbox, know what works for me, and am actively using what I know—and, I am still stressed!
However, there is good news. In an odd sense, I’m “enjoying” my stress. I’m not stressed every minute. In some ways, I actually feel empowered. I’m also practicing more gratitude and stopping to appreciate things in my life more. These have not happened by accident, they have happened with awareness and intention! They are also some flags for resilience!
Don’t get me wrong—those who know me closely can definitely tell sometimes I am stressed or having a rough time. After all, I am a person and not a magical life coach with the emotion systems of my brain removed. Sometimes I need more “alone” time. Sometimes I need more support. Sometimes I need to vent and get it all out. Sometimes I just want to enjoy what I’m doing in the moment and not think about the challenges. These are some of the more obvious ways that I “deal.” However, these are not the things that allow me to keep going with fervor.
What am I doing, “behind the scenes”, to be attacking my challenges more than I feel like they’re attacking me? What’s the mental work I’m putting in to prevent me from feeling so overwhelmed that I’m immobilized? What am I saying to myself to help me feel empowered? How am I more grateful now, during a storm, than during the calm?