For many people, Valentine’s Day is a reminder of how single we are and what we don’t have. Starting mid-January, walking by the holiday section in the grocery store can trigger those “Ugh, this time of year” thoughts. Following are the announcements of exclusive couple events for V-day, ads for flowers, and eventually the day of the 14th. This isn’t eloquent, but: it can sorta suck.
How do you counter the V-day blues? Below are a few suggestions of things to keep in mind or things to do to stay away from the potential doom-and-gloom pitty party of being single this time of year. Pick a few that sound good for you, and try ‘em out!
1.) Remember that there are many kinds of love and many kinds of relationships! Many people are together, but have horribly unhealthy relationships. Think of your past romantic relationships and why you’re glad you’re not still in them—make a list! Or, take a look at some of your friends’ relationships and why you’re glad you’re not in those.It’s better to be single than with someone who isn’t a fit for you, doesn’t respect you, doesn’t see your value, can’t reciprocate, or doesn’t add to your life.
2.) Along the lines of “many kinds of love and many kinds of relationships:” pay attention to the loving relationships in your life that aren’t romantic relationships, and celebrate them! Get or make Valentine’s Day cards and send to the people in your life who are special or you appreciate. Make plans with those people so you are reminded of the love you have in your life. If you have a pet, by all means do something special with your little furry ball of love! You’ll notice the relationships that really matter to you, it feels good to give and spend quality time with people who are special to you, and you’ll still get to participate in the festivity!
3.) On the 14th, have a singles party for your single friends (or if your couple friends want to come too), take yourself out for a nice dinner or a treat of some kind, or go on a date with a friend you love. There are also typically some events planned in your area just for singles, so keep an eye peeled for those too. Plan something special for V-day that you can enjoy, independent of a significant other. Or, since this Valentine’s Day is on a Sunday, and you are single and have this luxury, go ahead and plan a whole of day of doing your absolutely favorite things from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed. Have cake for breakfast, see the movie you want to see, go do your favorite activity, eat lunch where you want, take a quiet and relaxing bath, etc. Make the day all about you and celebrating your love of yourself, which is the most important love there is.