I am very stressed. After 7 years of studying psychology, working as a therapist, and now being a life coach, I am experiencing all of this stress. I have a plethora of tools in my toolbox, know what works for me, and am actively using what I know—and, I am still stressed!
However, there is good news. I’m not stressed every minute. In some ways, I actually feel empowered. I’m practicing more gratitude and stopping to appreciate things in my life more. These have not happened by accident; they have happened with awareness and intention! They are also flags for resilience!
Don’t get me wrong—those who know me closely can definitely tell I am stressed sometimes or having a rough time. After all, I am a person and not a magical life coach with the emotion systems of my brain removed. Sometimes I need more “alone” time. Sometimes I need more support. Sometimes I need to vent and "get it all out." Sometimes I just want to enjoy what I’m doing in the moment and not think about the challenges. These are some of the more obvious ways that I “deal.”
Then there's the not-so-obvious approaches I'm taking. What am I doing, “behind the scenes”, to be attacking my challenges more than I feel like they’re attacking me? What’s the mental work I’m putting in to prevent me from feeling so overwhelmed that I’m immobilized? What am I saying to myself to help me feel empowered? How am I more grateful now, during a storm, than during the calm?